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How do you control your emotions when you are heartbroken and trying to deal with that day in and day out?

What scripture says…

Thanks for listening! Be encouraged!

I Walk Because…

These are some of the faces of women I know who have gone to and through battle, given inspiration and smiled even through their toughest moments. They’ve given awareness and helped others on their journey.

I got super excited when my Hubby called and asked if I wanted to head back to our old stomping grounds, Canton Ohio, to do the Making Strides 5k Breast Cancer Awareness Walk. I think we had participated in this walk for at least 5 years straight. It brought back soooo many memories.

It’s something I hold dear to my heart, because in 2009 while my then, fiance, I and my mother sat to enjoy breakfast, my mom got a call that made us leave all the food that was just served to us, go cold. She had been diagnosed with breast cancer. This is truly when I became AWARE. I attended every radiation session my mom had and sat in on her doc appointments, so not only could I be there to support my Momma but also be there to understand the process she was going through and be more educated about it. I needed to understand what the doctors were saying especially after being told that with me being the first born, I needed to stay aware and do my breast examinations.

As my Momma’s journey began after her diagnoses, I started working with her, helping her build a better health and fitness lifestyle and she improved. She lost about 50 lbs in that year.

In 2011, I moved to Akron and felt confident that within the year I got to work with my Momma that her lifestyle was better and she was in better spirits.

In Akron, I had the opportunity and honor to build relationships and help other women who had been diagnosed with Breast Cancer.
At that time, the place my hubby was working for, Aultcare, was sponsoring the Making Strides 5k walk for awareness of Breast Cancer. My hubby was all in for it in the support and awareness it brought. He knew how I felt and still feel about it. I walked it before my first child was born, then once Rey came into the picture, I strolled her right along with us. The same went when Brendan was born.

So this year, we walk as a family. I walk because I represent my Momma. I walk because I honor the women I got the honor to work with. I walk because I support and think about the friends and teammates who were diagnosed with breast cancer at a young age. I walk, support, make aware, and represent for all of those who need the motivation and encouragement knowing we care and we love them. I walk for my health and I walk as a role model.

Thank you to my Momma, Nancy, Tiffany, Ivy and Christina aka CP for allowing me to share your beautiful faces in my Embrace the Process Blog. Continue to educate, encourage and inspire others through your stories.

Again, I am so very excited to walk this 5k again.

Side Note: I received news from my friend/client, Ms Nancy, pictured on the bottom left, that on October 24th, 2019 will mark 16 years as a survivor🙌🏽

In Progress Masterpiece

You can be a masterpiece while still a work in progress

I saw this twice within a week from a lady I am friends with on FB and IG and it connected and related with me in some way and I wanted to share my personal thoughts. 

I do deem myself of value and worth for what God has called me to do here on earth! With that being said, that does not mean that I struggle with trying to figure things out each day because I do, oh boy do I. 

I struggle with the thoughts of am I doing too much, and I’m not doing enough, am I going the right direction, and I’m not going the right direction, am I touching lives or am I being misunderstood. Despite those thoughts I see these wonderful reminders that God knows I am a masterpiece because HE made me, and that’s all that matters! 

While I am here on earth and still figuring things out, I can think myself the masterpiece God called me to be AND do it while helping others along the way! I don’t need to have all the answers or be spot on all the time. 

As long as I remind myself of who God says I am and what I’m capable of, it will allow the to work through this process without judgment. As I can continue this work in progress, I’ll have the opportunity to watch the masterpiece unfold and see what God has always saw. 

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord,

“plans to prosper you and not to harm you,

plans to give you hope and a future.

Jeremiah 29:11

Don’t Lose An Opportunity!

So I had a conversation with one of my staff members the other day as I was sharing a conversation I had with a potential person who is interested in personal training and working with a registered dietitian, however they were looking for someone who is closer to their age because they Felt that if that person was around their age they could understand everything they were going through. Now as I understand that thought process to an extent, my response back to this person was this:

It’s not the age of a person that is going to be able to provide the help that you’re looking for,  it’s the knowledge and background that they come with in what you’re asking for, that is going to help you.

I can attest to that because when I was in my late 20s I sat down with a gentleman who was 70 years old. I knew he had reservation about me but I held my ground and came with what I knew could help him get through his journey. his wall finally came down and allowed me to help him. Not only did he lose over 30 pounds in better health but we became the best of friends. He is now 78 years Old. 

I’ve also personally experienced earlier in my career where someone believed I could not help them in their training being that I was a female. I came to the conclusion that it was that person’s loss because without getting the chance to know me what I had to offer and the value that came along with it, That person would lose out on a lot of opportunities if they just based on their opinion rather than facts.

I’ve Embrace a lot of Process in my career and have learned a lot!

I say all of that to say there is so much that we all can learn from one another no matter the age, sex, race, or background. 

We don’t want to lose on an opportunity of the possibility of something great happening with the help of someone you may not perceive as someone who could help you. 

Love The Skin You’re In

Earlier this week I posted a pic with the comment Love the skin you’re in- Now I know that can be tough to digest for some, especially if you’re in a place where you’re struggling with how you feel and look. Loving the skin you are in can we look at in so many different ways perspective I’m looking at is the body I am in.

The best way for me to relay this message that was on my heart to share is this;

Just as we care for our children or people we hold dear to our hearts, our bodies need that same love and tender care too. Just as our children or the people who put their trust in us knowing that we will make the best choices and decisions for them, I believe our bodies hope we do the same for it. 

 There were so many times that I struggled and cried wondering if I would ever get the body back that I once had prior to having children. Now, the more time that I’ve taken to think about it and put it into perspective, my body has gone through a lot of transformations and stayed strong through it ALL!!  

This is the same body that got me all through my high school, college years, surgery, miscarriages, childbirth and where I’m at today. 

My body just adapted to the life I put it through. That’s all my body had done and is doing. So I come with a new perspective of appreciation and love for my body and it’s clear to me.

The only way for me not to love the skin I am in is when I mistreat my body in not taking the proper care of it like I should. I’m not holding that against my body. 

I love the skin I am in because God allowed me to learn this perspective Of total appreciation and love for myself to take care of myself. 

Affirmations

I believe affirmations are a resourceful tool to have in your life as a constant reminder on how to focus on life. For me, I have found that including affirmations in my life and within my clients programs are vital because our journey has so many life situations thrown at us with ups and downs affirmations definitely need to kick in. I know I can speak for myself that affirmations help get you through the day.

One affirmation that will always hold dear to my heart Is one my grandmother shared with me when I was younger:

It’s simple and straight to the point

When I have a situation that is obviously not going well or stressful it is SO EASY to fall into the trap of negativity. This affirmation, for me, definitely puts my life back into perspective.

When you have an affirmation(s) that truly sticks with you and you BELIEVE in, the outlook changes. 

Do you have an affirmation that sticks with you? If you do Keep it close as a reminder when things seem to go weary. 

If you do not, choose one that connects with you!

Here are a few:

My body is healthy; my mind is brilliant; my soul is tranquil.

I am more than a conqueror, I am of value and I am worthy.

Happiness is a choice. I base my happiness on my own accomplishments and the blessings I’ve been given.

Trusting The Process

There’s so much testimony on what was just shared above.

Sometimes it can be so hard to trust the process when everything around you and in your life seems to be going wrong or just not your way.

I have found with experience, that how some people view their health and fitness journey is more so looked at in a small frame rather than the big picture.

Instead of trusting the process it’s more of a “expect the process”.

The difference between the two? is the mindset.

Trusting the process, the mindset is keeping a more optimistic attitude. Its knowing that a journey is going to be just that and will come with ups and downs, but no matter what, as long as you keep working, believing and sewing into yourself everything will come to pass in due time. You will achieve your goals. An example, not allowing the scale to determine their success. Even if the number wasn’t what they hoped for After a certain length of time, they keep moving forward because they know progress is being made in other ways.

Expecting the process, is a mindset of the pressure is on, all or nothing. One expects that no matter if they go through their ups and downs, that results should still happen. This can only lead to frustration and resentment in the journey. An Example, Allowing the scale to determine their success. Whatever the number on the scale says either they are going to be happy with it, expect it to be a number they believe it should be, or be distraught.

Listen, the things we expect our bodies to do is crazy! not only should we trust the process we go through in our journeys but we also have to put some trust in our body and allow it to take the time to understand what we are doing through during our process.

God made our bodies with intricate detail and with detail Each and every human being goes through their process differently.

Go through your journey with confidence, honesty, vulnerability, and most of all learn to love and appreciate yourself with the abilities and capabilities you have. When you can hone in on that, you can trust the process.

Self Care

The other day after watching a Show which involved a group of African-American ladies having a conversation about different topics regarding life, I was graciously reminded of something. Right before the show ended one of the ladies said this… “Self Care is not selfish”

That stuck with me because funny thing is, for a long time I would think that making sure Crystal was taken care of, would always be looked at as selfish. My true intentions for my self-care has always been to make sure that, within my control, I would stay healthy, strong and do what made Crystal happy.

My mother always used to say, Crystal, It’s OK to make other people happy, but don’t forget what makes YOU happy. “

My areas of self-care fall under the dimensions of mental, physical, emotional, spiritual. My self care ranges from making sure I go to church to get my soul spiritually fed for more wisdom, eating healthy, doing workouts, all the way to wanting to get my nails or hair done.

Somehow, unfortunately I would think that any of that self-care for me seemed selfish, especially if it had anything to do with asking someone for help in order for me to take care of me. To be honest, it bothered me a lot because I didn’t want to feel like that.

It took some time, and I am still working on it but I’ve grown stronger within myself to know that my self-care is very important because if I did not see it as a priority then I most certainly would not be able to help others let alone myself. So how could I view it as being selfish to take care of me?

I am asking all of you to do the same. Take care of yourself! Let your intentions of your self-care be for well being So that YOU can enjoy life but also be able to take care of all the ones you love without any convictions.

That kind of self-care is not selfish at all.

Holding ME Back

“One of the greatest tragedies you can experience is to come to the end of your life and realize that… your failure was due in large part to your inability to get out of your own way.” – Mark Goulston

How scary is it to think that I got in my own way from reaching the potential or do something that was on my heart to do but I just let “other things” distract me, or I would use “other things” as excuses to hold me back from that greatness? 

I have dealt with that from time to time. I think I would really beat myself up if I got a point in my life where I told myself why did you wait so long? There’s a difference between allowing yourself to become more wiser, and patient so that you can be the best at it…but it’s another thing to already have that wisdom, given yourself the time and yet still won’t take that step to make things happen. The fear of the shoulda, coulda, wouldas. That would haunt me knowing I could be great but never gave myself the chance, while watching other people live out their dreams and do what made them happy.

I think about Tyler Perry’s story. He FOLLOWED THROUGH. He could have stayed right where he was, homeless feeling sorry for himself, but he kept pressing, kept working and followed through with it to the point where he is now! He would have never known his potential had he let himself stay in that dark moment in his life. 

People can motivate our thoughts and decisions but ultimately the decision and thoughts you follow through with are made by…YOU!  Don’t hold yourself back!

What does your “diet” consist of?

When I saw this, I said YES!! This is the ultimate truth. Anytime I would sit down and have a consultation with a potential client or a member beginning their health and fitness journey I learned that sugarcoating the truth about what it would take in ones personal health and Fitness journey, never benefited anyone.

You have to tell the truth about what it truly entails and how it all works together to make a result. When I was younger and had just graduated college I had all the knowledge of the science of health and fitness but no experience of what the real life additions that came along with it. It wasn’t until I Actually started experiencing and learning that it took more than just Fitness and nutrition to help meet the needs of someone’s ultimate goals.

I still till this day tell people that even if you came to me with your health and fitness goals that you wanted to accomplish that’s only a small step towards accomplishing them. The main point is to remember You still have to deal with everything else outside of nutrition and fitness…. and it’s a thing called LIFE!!

Outside of Physically providing our body with nutrition, we also feed our bodies psychologically by the things we are surrounded by daily which affect our journey in different ways, that’s why a journey is never a smooth one.

So yes, a journey could be an analogy to being on a diet. What is it we restrict and what is it we nurture through our journey that either benefits or derails us?

Think about what you surround yourself with on a daily basis that feeds You emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically that ultimately causes us to take action on the decisions we make.

What does your diet consist of?

Sometimes it’s ok to just be….ok

I had just finished A sub par work out. My intentions were to do a routine in the strength room but all I could muster was doing jump rope and I could hardly get it together but I Finished and I was ok with that.

This can go for any area in our life but this is geared more so in our health and fitness journey. For me specifically, when I’m exercising I can get myself in a focus mode where I want to have an on point work out. Then there are other days where I plan my work out and I do it but I just don’t feel connected to it yet I still get through it. On my focused, on point days if I mess up with something my mentality is to do extra reps to make up for the ones I messed up on. But on the days that I’m just not feeling it if I mess up I don’t push myself to try to make it up, I am OK with it. I’ve been teaching myself that it’s OK not to have on point days every single time, my OK days are better than no good days and at least I’m still doing something for me. I can hold onto the fact that I don’t have to have that mentality to have to or want to push myself when sometimes my body doesn’t necessarily want to go that extra mile.

I think for all of us, we have to keep in mind that we are not missing out on the value of having an on point journey in our health and fitness If we just aren’t feeling it. It’s OK to just be OK and still get by. Progress is still being made and that’s what is important.